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Tuesday, August 10, 2021

Get Out of Your Head by Jennie Allen





Rating: 4 of 5 stars
Pages: 256 pages
Published: January 2020

Earlier this year, I participated in another Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study centered on my fellow Texan's book, Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts by Jennie Allen. I am active in this Proverbs 31 Ministry and you can visit any of the previous study books I've reviewed by conducting a simple search for "Proverbs 31" on my website. As someone who can be overly analytical and held captive by my anxious thoughts, I was very interested in the premise of this book. Allen posits that a person has an average of 9,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day and those can often be negative. She opens her book explaining that "the greatest spiritual battle for our generation is being fought between our ears." Her book is a form of spiritual self-help on how to take those negative thoughts captive so that one doesn't suffer from paralysis by analysis. 

Her writing style is contemporary and light. She shares a lot of examples, including personal experiences. Because I studies with the Proverbs 31 Ministry, I had access to her teaching videos. While these videos supplemented the book, I found them quite challenging because of Allen's voice (sorry!). But I did very much appreciate the nuggets of wisdom she shared throughout the book. Some of my favorite quotes are listed below. 





"...yet we have allowed our minds to have outright meltdowns with zero corrections (page 38)."

"Tell me what you're thinking ... and I'll tell you who you are (page 43)." 

"We are made to experience life and peace as we begin to think less about oursevles and more about our Creator and about others (page 56)." 

"In the stillness and quiet, not only do we connect with God but we are also able to more clearly identify what is wrong. Recognizing our spirals and naming them is the first step in interrupting them (page 70)." 

"Father, help me see things not as they seem to me but as they truly are (page 81)."

"Loneliness can make us thing that everything is a threat, even if there is no real threat to be found (page 92)."

"When you're looking for intimate friendships, you've got to start with emotionally intelligent friends (page 99)." 

"But our tool for defeating 'what if' is, found in two words: 'Because God (page 109).'" 

The Bible tells us that we are not to conform to the ways of the world but rather be transformed by the renewing of our minds (Romans 12:2). Or more simply put: Quit your stinkin' thinkin'! This is a perpetual battle which requires the constant equipping and preparing of one's mind, and my personal belief is that I can overcome the negative thoughts through the reading of God's Word and improving my personal relationship with Him. 

Recommendation: I think some books resonate with some people more than others. This book definitely resonated with me. Allen's down-to-earth approach backed by scientific facts and Scripture offered a well-rounded thesis on a very important and prevalent issue that many people face daily. This is a relatively short read, and I would definitely recommend giving it a shot. 

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

UNINVITED BY LYSA TERKEURST

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Rating: 4 of 5 stars

If you follow my reading journey, you might know that I am a follower of the Proverbs 31 Ministry, led by Lysa TerKeurst. So, when Auidble.com offered Uninvited: Living Loved When you Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely as part of its BOGO promo a couple of weeks ago, I couldn't resist taking advantage.

As I suspected, this was another book filled with wisdom by Ms. TerKeurst. The feelings she shares along with the personal narratives that will have you crying from empathy and laughter (often one right after the next) really resonated with me. While the Proverbs 31 Ministry is geared toward women, the aspects of shame, vulnerability, anxiety, and rejection are universal without respect to gender.

In her very practical, relatable way the author seems to know just how I am feeling and offers a spiritual perspective on how to cope and overcome those negative feelings. I do believe writing is TerKeurst's God-given talent, and what a blessing it is to be able to use your talent in a way to not only make a living but help others in the process.

Recommendation: I think I would like a traditional copy of this book. The audio recitation was a little fast for me. The author's words and themes deserve deeper thought a reflection than what I could gather from an audiobook.

Other Proverbs 31 Books I've Read (and Reviewed)

  • 5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit by Nicki Koziarz
  • Unglued by Lysa  TerKeurst
  • Wait and See: Finding Peace in God's Pauses and Plans by Wendy Pope (review)
  • Listen, Love, Repeat by Karen Ehman (review)

Until next time ... Read on!

Saturday, August 4, 2018

Seamless by Angie Smith


Seamless: Understanding the Bible as One Complete Story


Rating: 5 of 5 stars 

Seamless: Understanding the Bible as One Complete Story by Angie Smith is the fifth book I've read and studied with the Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies ministry. I truly value this organization and the resources it offers through their website, social media, and FirstFive app. I purchased this book through the Proverbs 31 website because a portion of the sales goes back into the ministry of spreading the gospel, which is what God has commanded Christians to do.

In all the ways I've engaged with Proverbs 31 over the years, this has, by far, been my favorite study. Angie Smith is just your Christian girl next door who loves the Lord and His people. She's taken the Bible, which can appear daunting to some, synthesized it and presented it in such a way that it is easily digestible for anyone. Developing a relationship with God must include reading His Word, and the author has helped readers with this tool.

The book is easy to read and flows very well. It includes worksheet pages to help the reader retain the content. I really appreciated the timeline map at the back of the book. It highlights key milestones in the greatest story every told. This book is not only a retelling of the Bible but a resource that can be used over and over again. I am thankful for Smith's insight, her vulnerability, and her transparency. The Bible can and is for everyone, and she does a lovely job sharing her perspective with Seamless. 

Recommendation: If you are a Christian or curious about Christianity, I think this book would be good for you. Beginners to Bible scholars are sure to get something from the content of this wonderful book.

Until next time ... Read on!


Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Sunday, May 30, 2021

Flooded by Nicki Koziarz





Rating: 4 of 5 stars
Pages: 208 pages
Published: March 2021

This past spring, I participated in another Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study with Nicki Koziarz's latest book, Flooded: The 5 Best Decisions to Make When Life is Hard and Doubt is Rising, at the forefront. (If you're interested in previous study books I've reviewed, just do a simple search for "Proverbs 31" on my website.) I previously read an earlier book authored by Koziarz, 5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit, and it was very powerful. Likewise, Flooded did not disappoint. 

As the title indicates, the Flooded book offers five decisions when life is tough. The decisions that Koziarz has crafted come from her intense study of the Biblical Old Testament figure, Noah, and his calling by God to build an ark. Themes in this book include persistence, trust, and hope.  

The thing I like most about Koziarz's teachings and writings is the practical way in which she applies, the sometimes, complex Biblical teachings. As an author and teacher, Koziarz is talented, and as a person she is truly gifted. In her latest book, she experienced many crises while writing it including the death of not one, but two, family members. Couple that with COVID and the current state of affairs in the United States while she was writing this, she is truly blessed to have delivered such a comprehensive and cohesive teaching book. 

As with all books, I think they meet you where you are. And not all books are for every person at every moment. I don't know that I read this book at the right time in life. That is not to take away anything from the author, but more from me, as I might not have been prepared to receive all it had to offer at this point in my life. However, it is a timeless book that I am thankful to keep on my bookshelf for when it might speak more strongly to me. 

Recommendation: If you are going through a difficult time, this book is a treasure and one that can be referenced again and again. I strongly recommend this book as well as the Proverbs 31 Ministry. It is currently available through the ministry as well as Target department stores.  

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Saturday, December 31, 2016

WAIT AND SEE: FINDING PEACE IN GOD'S PAUSES AND PLANS BY WENDY POPE

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Rating: 5 of 5 stars

I've participated in three Online Bible Studies facilitated the Proverbs 31 Ministry. In the latest installment, I read Wendy Pope's new book, Wait and See: Finding Peace in God's Pauses and Plans. I do believe that sometimes books find us at the right time, and this was certainly a great book at the right time for me. Proverbs 31 Ministries is based on Proverbs chapter 31 in the Bible. As such, much of the educational and spiritual material is targeted toward women.

Wait and See is not only a motivational and inspirational book. This study takes a different approach from the previous two (5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit by Nicki Koziarz and Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst) in that this book includes a Bible study portion that focuses on many of the Psalms King David penned in the Bible. Additionally, the book becomes a personal journal, allowing the reader to write her own chapter through writing prompts in chapter 10.

Pope clearly is knowledgeable about the Bible, she has a strong faith, and her conversational tone helps to inspire the reader to have patience during the period (or periods) of wait that she may be in. There is so much to be taken from this study, but the biggest gift Pope gave me was one of hope. Whenever I get down, I try to remember to reflect back on the author's guiding principle - Focus on the Person of my faith rather than the object of my wait.

Recommendation: If you're waiting for something important, like a job, healing, or mate, this book will help you. If you are not a believer, it can show you how some believers approach patience (read: waiting well) as a tenet of life.

Until next time ... Read on!

Thursday, May 4, 2017

LISTEN LOVE REPEAT BY KAREN EHMAN

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Rating: 5 of 5 stars

People who know me can usually tell I am a Christian by faith. As such, some of the book reviews I post here are based on Bible studies in which I've participated. One of my favorite ministries is the Proverbs 31 Ministry. This group conducts several five-week studies throughout the year. The latest, and the fourth for me, is Listen Love Repeat: Other-Centered Living in a Self-Centered World by the very empathetic and hospitable Karen Ehman. (The Proverbs 31 Ministry is based on Proverbs chapter 31 in the Bible. As such, much of the educational and spiritual material is targeted towards women.)

Not to take anything away from this book, but Listen Love Repeat isn't rocket science. It's core message is about taking the focus off of your own issues and loving God by loving His people. It's really a simple three-step approach: 1. Love God. 2. Love People. 3. Then, do it again and again. But what seems so simple is principle is often difficult to put into practice. In this book, Ehman makes the theory practical, tangible, and attainable. She shows us how easy it can be to care for the hurting, care for our families, and even care for people who at first glance don't seem very lovable. The author's practical approach, based in God's Word (aka The Holy Bible) is thought-provoking. For me, it convicted me in many areas of my life stretching me to grow, go, and give more of myself.

I truly believe Ehman is a strong woman of God who has a passion for not only caring for people but helping women grow into more developed, mature Christians.

Recommendation: If you're feeling like your life doesn't have as much purpose as it should, I think this book will help show you how the little things you are doing (or can do) help you help others. And in today's cantankerous climate, I think we can agree that we can all use a little more love.

Until next time ... Read on!

Tuesday, December 3, 2019

Because of Bethlehem by Max Lucado


Full Title: Because of Bethlehem: Every Day a Christmas, Every Heart a Manger
Rating: 3 of 5 stars
Pages: 196 pages
Published: September 2016 

I purchased a Kindle copy of Because of Bethlehem: Every Day a Christmas, Every Heart a Manger by Max Lucado in order to participate in an online Bible study with Proverbs 31 Ministries. In addition to the book, I was able to take advantage of the supplemental materials included in the study.

This book was a quick read, making it a benefit during one of the more busier times of the year. I found the stories easy to digest, often completing a chapters while waiting in line at the grocery store or on my lunch break at work. As a Christian, I found the themes fairly elementary. Lucado added a lot of personal anecdotes, which made him more relatable to the reader. But if I am honest, I really didn't have any big aha! moments with this book. It was a fun read for the Christmas season that reminded me of things I already knew.

Proverbs 31 Ministries motto goes something like: Your life may be crazy, but your Bible study doesn't have to be. I think this study was a good example of that. It's as light read about an important topic that reminds the reader of the reason for the season.

Recommendation:  I think this book would be a good selection for someone young in their Christian walk or for someone who doesn't have much time to delve deeply into a Bible study.

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.


Monday, December 10, 2018

Breathe: Making Room for Sabbath by Priscilla Shirer




Rating: 4 of 5 stars
Length: 127 pages
Published: September 2014


Breathe by Priscilla Shirer is the latest online Bible study program in which I participated with Proverbs 31 Ministries. In the past, I've reaped great benefits from 5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn't Quit by Nicki Koziarz, Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst, Wait and See by Wendy Pope, Listen, Love, Repeat by Karen Ehman, and Seamless by Angie Smith. Prior to reading her book, I'd only heard of Ms. Shirer through her father, who is a paster in the Dallas/Fort Worth area - Tony Evans. The things I had heard about her were very positive, so I was quite excited to dig into this study. And I'm not going to lie, I was happy it was a short one since we are in the midst of the busy holiday season. 

The overall premise of Breathe is we are overly busy. We don't slow down and smell the roses. Shirer posits that God designed us and the world in such a way that we must take time to rest and remember - remember our purpose, remember to love, remember to spend time with Him. She calls this the #SabbathMargin - creating space for God to enter in. She further explains, after six days of creating, He saw that it was good and rested on the seventh day. In doing this, He illustrates the importance of us taking that same time. It may be difficult to carve out an entire Saturday or Sunday. But what if we took a few minutes each day to stop and meditate on His goodness? 

The book is written in a relatable and practical way for both women and men. There are several areas and pages to jot down notes of your own as well as from Shirer's video presentations that can be purchased via LifeWay. I wish there was a little more written content and less questions. Some of the questions tended to be repetitive, and some of them were not relevant to me. However, it was helpful to reflect and commit to some Sabbath practices by memorializing them in writing. 

My biggest takeaway from this book was that people who tend to hoard (things, time, etc.) live with a slave mentality, and "Slaves live from a position of deficiency. Free people live from a place of holy expectation." After completing this study, I have a renewed commitment to thinking, walking, and living in freedom. Rather than hold on to the temporary things of this world, I hope to hold on to things that contribute to my eternal life. I will not always be perfect, but the goal is to be better. And I hope God blesses my progress (and yours too!). 

Recommendation: Priscilla Shirer is a powerful writer and speaker. This short book is packed with motivational messages, and it's the perfect antidote this time of year when we all tend to be more busy than usual. 

The next Proverbs 31 Study is Lysa Terkeurst's It's Not Supposed to be this Way. Sign up for free on the P31 website. 

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Tuesday, May 30, 2023

You're Going to Make It: 50 Morning and Evening Devotions to Unrush Your Mind, Uncomplicate Your Heart, and Experience Healing Today







Rating: 4 of 5 stars 
Pages: 224 pages
Published: March 2023

I was gifted a copy of You're Going to Make It: 50 Morning and Evening Devotions to Unrush Your Mind, Uncomplicate Your Heart, and Experience Healing Today by the Proverbs 31 Ministry because I volunteer on their social media team. This book written by Lysa TerKeurst, who is a strong Christian, a prolific writer, and one of my favorite authors, was a delight to consume over the course of 50 mornings and 50 evenings. 

The cadence of the readings gave me peace throughout my busy spring season days, calm in the evenings, and often reminded me of what's truly important. I did find a lot of the content repetitive; however, I think sometimes we need to hear things often and at different times to effect us in a substantial way. I enjoy the way that TerKeurst writes as though we are old friends sitting across from each other sharing our vulnerabilities and burdens. The accompanying free online Bible study was also a benefit that enhanced my reading of this book. 

Recommendation: There's not a lot to say here. I think the hefty title provides an accurate description of what you're getting. The physical book is absolutely stunning, and the message should resonate on some level with any reader. While Proverbs 31 Ministry's target audience is women, I think any Christian could benefit from the nuggets of truth shared in this book's easily digestible format. 

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Monday, December 19, 2022

Help is Here: Finding Fresh Strength and Purpose in the Power of the Holy Spirit by Max Lucado








Rating: 5 of 5 stars 
Pages: 234 pages
Published: September 2022

Help is Here: Finding Fresh Strength and Purpose in the Power of the Holy Spirit by Max Lucado was one of the last books I read this year and the very last Online Bible Study hosted by Proverbs 31 Ministries. This short but powerful book focused on who the Holy Spirit is as part of the Trinity and why we were given such a gift in the Holy Spirit by God. 

I enjoyed learning more about the Holy Spirit and the gentle reminders the author gave to simply ask Him for help when I am in trouble. The book was written in a clear and practical way making it easy for any reader to understand no matter the level of his or her knowledge of Christianity. I also appreciated the examples that Lucado shared about his personal life, make application seem relevant to everyday life. 

“The word intercede simply means to stand in the gap. The Holy Spirit becomes our advocate. He knows exactly the right words to say to the Father at just the right time to meet our unspoken need.” -Max Lucado
Something that I appreciate about all of the studies facilitated by Proverbs 31 is they are soundly-based in Biblical Scripture. One can go to the Bible (or an online version of it) and cross-reference the teaching from the study book. Additionally, while the Ministry is targeted toward women, I find great value in the organization choosing good books regardless of the author’s gender. We can learn from anyone whose work in based in Scripture. 

Lucado serves at a church in my home state of Texas. Through his writings, I find him to be a Biblically-based and Spirit-led leader of the good news, or Gospel as we Christians call it. 

Recommendation: I highly recommend this book to anyone at any time of year, but I found this one especially timely as I reflected on the year coming to a close and things I wanted to change (e.g., resolutions) for the new year. And if you decide not to pick this book up at all, the title alone offers a huge inspiration, Friend, Help is Here, indeed! 

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Wednesday, September 7, 2022

Fighting Words: 100 Days of Speaking Truth into the Darkness by Ellie Holcomb







Rating: 5 of 5 stars 
Pages: 248 pages
Published: October 2021

Fighting Words: 100 Days of Speaking Truth into Darkness by Ellie Holcomb is the latest study book I completed with Proverbs 31 Ministries Online Bible Studies group. This book provided 100 days of effective verses from the Bible with commentary from Ellie Holcomb that served as a bite-sized, daily devotional. 

While the content each day was a quick read, it did require some reflection on how the greater message could be applied to one’s life. In addition to being an author, Holcomb is also a songwriter, and she included some of the lyrics to her songs in the book. I though this added value for people who enjoy music and are auditory learners. Holcomb did note early on in her book that she would be including the information about her songs but didn’t want to come across as trying to push album sales. I certainly did not get that feeling by reading her book as the tactic was not overdone. 

As with most books I read via the free P31 OBS program, I gained so much more by having a community of women who were learning alongside me. Being part of the Facebook group added another layer of depth for this study. 

Recommendation: As always, Proverbs 31 picks powerful, life-changing books, and Fighting Words did not disappoint. Whether you read this book in 100 consecutive days or pick it up as time allows, you will be changed. Go snag your copy of this Bible-based today! 

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Monday, February 18, 2019

It's Not Supposed to be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst




Rating: 5 of 5 stars
Length: 256 pages
Published: November 2018


Anyone who follows my blog writings knows that I participate in many of Proverbs 31 Ministries online Bible studies. The latest study was authored by the organization's president, Lysa TerKeurst. In It's Not Supposed to be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave you Shattered, TerKeurst shares her most vulnerable side with her readers as she dealt with a myriad of crises. And I say "as she dealt with" because she wrote the book, in real time, while she was in the midst of several major life upsets. Because of this I think this is her most emotional, raw, and real work to date. 

TerKeurst is a talented writer, an amazing survivor, and a strong Christ follower. Because I participated in the online Bible study I reaped the benefits of supplemental study materials. However, the book stands alone, and it effective in its own right. I did enjoy hearing and observing the author through the teaching videos, which is why I don't know why she doesn't narrate the audio version of her books. She has a lovely voice, and hearing her tell her story of transformation in her own words and her own voice is a treat.   

As always, TerKeurst reminds us that when we are at our weakest moments is when we should lean into God the most - changing our focus from the problem to our Problem Solver. 

Recommendation: I strongly recommend this book. The perspective, insight, and authenticity make the book a treasure that can be read again and again.

Until next time ... Read on!


Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Tuesday, October 26, 2021

The Dream of You by Jo Saxton







Rating: 5 of 5 stars 
Pages: 240 pages
Published: January 2018

I first met professional author and speaker, Jo Saxton, at a women’s conference hosted by a local church. When my favorite online ministry, Proverbs 31 decided to facilitate an online Bible study in the fall based on Saxton’s book, The Dream of You: Let Go of Broken Identities and Live the Life You Were Made For, I hurriedly registered to participate. 

In this short book, Saxton has offered concise yet powerful information on how to see yourself differently, specifically focusing on how God sees you. Each chapter begins with a thoughtful, heartfelt letter to the reader from Saxton and is then followed with practical applications based on Biblical principles. The non-fiction book is somewhat autobiographical in that Saxton bears her soul by sharing some of her most vulnerable moments with the audience. Additionally, the piece is targeted toward Christian women; however, as with most motivational literature, anyone can benefit from the overarching themes and message. 

Saxton’s writing style is educational and simultaneously conversational. Many of the ideas she presents are done in such a way that any reader can relate and understand. Having heard her speak and following her on Instagram, I would say she has a bubbly personality and that definitely comes through in her writing. 

Recommendation: Overall, I would say that Saxton has a way with words and is a Biblical scholar. I would recommend this book to any of my friends seeking to rid themselves of negative self-talk and improve on self-perspective and reflection. This book is a must read! 

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Thursday, August 15, 2019

Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner by Wendy Blight


Rating: 3 of 5 stars
Pages: 208 pages
Published: February 2009 

I ordered Hidden Joy: The Transforming Power of God's Story by Wendy Blight in preparation for another Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study. I've taken part in several of these studies and feel like I've gotten to know the author through her online teaching and sharing. I was not aware of the major transforming event that this book is centered around. Blight has such a sweet and gentle spirit. Her writing is methodical and easy to follow for any adult - no matter where s/he is in her/his Christian walk. Overall, what this book teaches is the power of God's healing. 

While I enjoyed participating in the study and learning more about Blight's journey, this book did not move me in the same ways that other Christian-based books have. I am not sure why. Perhaps, this just wasn't a story that resonated with me. Sometimes books don't meet us at the right time and sometimes a book is just not for us. However, I cannot deny that this book is Bible-based and the information Blight shares is valid and helpful. I would suggest that, as with any book, go into it with an open mind.

Recommendation:  I recommend and support all P31 books, and I do the same with this one. Consider purchasing your copy from the organization as the book sales support the ministry and help disseminate the Gospel.

Until next time ... Read on!

Regardless of whether I purchase a book, borrow a book, or receive a book in exchange for review, my ultimate goal is to be honest, fair, and constructive. I hope you've found this review helpful.

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

HOW TO WORSHIP A KING BY ZACH NEESE

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Rating: 2.5 of 5 stars

I read this book as part of a worship study at the church I attended, and it's been very difficult for me to attempt this review because I don't want the greater message to be lost in my review of how this important content was delivered. Everything I write, and especially this review, is written through my perspective as a Bible-based Christian.

The author, Zach Neese, is the worship pastor at Gateway Church in Texas. I have no doubt he is a well-read believer. There was a plethora of inspirational passages that created revelations for me in this book. Discussing portions of it with my small group was also helpful. However, much of the book was tainted by some egotistical, short-sighted, and down-right ugly commentary.

As a Christian, I understand we falter. That is the key that is often misunderstood by non-believers. Being a Christian does not make one perfect but rather makes one forgiven and redeemed for one's shortcomings. However, I just don't see how some of the language was left in this book after the writing and editing process. Some of this language included:
From page 45: Yes, every voice should sing to God, but only the best voices should leading the singing. 
As with most books like this, Neese offers some personal anecdotes. On page 47 he shares some information about fellow students at a Christian college who "took him on as a challenge" before he was saved. He writes, "They (the students) had two problems: they didn't know their Bibles well enough, and they didn't have the Spirit of God. I ate them for lunch."

My first issue here is in Neese's post-saved, redeemed life he would describe his response as "eating them for lunch." It reeks of an over-inflated ego, and it is my personal belief that it could have been worded better. It wasn't that he ate them for lunch; he was being disobedient. The way he crafted the story, it made the believers look weak, and I didn't think that was a fair assessment of the situation. We are called to go and make disciples, and that's what they were trying to do.

In chapter 4, Neese attempts an analogy about hypothetical wait service he and his wife might receive at a restaurant with putting our focus solely on God. He comments:
And Christ is one fellow you don't want to compete with. Let's make this personal. I have a beautiful wife. When I take her to dinner, it is because I want to spend time with her, not because I want her to be entertained by a waiter. This is a warning to waiters - if you want a tip, serve us; don't try to entertain us. I don't need a jester at my table; I need my glass refilled (p. 61). 
Again, just the pure ugliness of this statement resulted in a loss of credibility with the author. These are not words of love, and they eroded his thesis rather than strengthening it.

From page 70, Neese drives home the point that we must demonstrate our love for God. While I do not disagree with this, as a communicator when he furthered his statement by writing, "As the saying goes, words are cheap," he lost me. No, they are not. Sticks and stones do break bones. Words do hurt. And yes, Mr. Neese, words have great power.

On the next page, Neese distracts with:
I have no idea why they call the thing they do to your fingers a manicure. It should be called a "womanicure." All I wanted was something that shoots, cuts, or blows up. I'm a boy! 
This is immature and sexist. Neese is a smart man. I can tell by the amount of research that was put into this book. I'm sure he knows the "man" part of manicure comes from the process dealing with the hand, and has nothing to do with gender. Why add this bit and take away from illustrating God's Word and the purpose of worship?

In chapter six, What is Praise?, Neese talks about people making excuses for not honoring God. He writes, "Why are people always looking for the exception? Why do some people look for a way to do as little as possible to honor God? The answer is simple. Those people don't love Jesus very much. 

Oh, Mr. Neese, why are you hurting (with your words that DO have power) already hurt people? I do not think passing judgement is in line with God. Instead God wants us to love His people. And really that was my prevailing issue with this book that had so much potential. Neese focused on beating people up rather than building them up in what they should do and what they can do through worshipping and loving the true and living God. I think this happens often, in churches all over the world. It's part of the reason so many people are leaving the Church.

Also, in chapter six, Neese resorts to name calling describing people as "whiney brats." On page 104, he passively passes judgments on churches who don't use instruments to worship saying, "And, just in case your denominational culture frowns on the use of instruments, notice they used instruments to praise the Lord." (2 Chronicles 20:27-28). Bashing other denominations does not glorify God, it makes the author look petty, and, in reading it, it chipped away at his credibility with me.

Later in chapter six on page 108, Neese attempts to emulate a Spanish-speakers accent. I found this distracting and disrespectful.

In chapter nine on page 148, Neese returns to name calling by describing a neighbor as a "spoiled brat." 

I could go on, but I think these examples demonstrate my main point. I did finish the book because I try to finish what I start, and I wanted to fully participate with my small group. Additionally, I don't want to do in this review exactly what I am accusing the writer of doing. How to Worship a King was published in 2015. I hope Neese has grown and matured (and continues to do so) since that time. There were great nuggets of truth in this book. If you follow me on social media, I shared some of those nuggets over the weeks that I read the book. My physical copy is tattered with "Amens" and "I <3 this!" but  the overwhelmingly negative comments are what stuck with me because they were so harsh. Furthermore, they took away from the good intent I believe the author had when writing the book.

In closing, I will share this positive thing I took away: God didn't create me to use me but instead to know me. And from that I must grow my relationship with Him to truly worship Him (p. 3, 26). My prayer is the Neese continues to know the Lord and hone his words ... and that's my prayer for me too!

Recommendation: Perhaps, I've become too accustomed to Proverbs 31 Ministries and the less abrasive approach these women of God take on when facilitating Bible studies. As you can glean, this was book was not a favorite. I am aware we have to discuss difficult issues in the Church, and it's not all nice and neat, but I do think that the author of this book would have better served those wishing to learn about worship if he would have expressed his concerns through a veil of love. With anything, we do not have to be disagreeable to disagree.

Bottom line: If I participated in another study on this topic, I would not choose this book to help guide discussions.

Until next time ... Read on!